I am now, once again, at the Diocesan House kitchen table, back from weeks of travel and meals on the go. Unlike many times I find myself at this table, my adventures having been thwarted by a rain that falls like bullets, upside-down and sideways, tonight I am happily here by my down doing, excited to be home and sedentary. I’m working my way through a specialty I’ve developed in Costa Rica – whole wheat spaghetti with crushed tomatoes, a touch of milk, basil, oregano, salt and pepper, and peas. It’s a comforting and delicious dinner (and, thankfully, one that I can make in one-meal portions). To top off the night, I’ve got Pops coffee ice cream waiting in the freezer.
The last month has been a blur of excitement and exhaustion. Within two sequential weeks, we had four concurrent groups: Christ Church, St. Mark’s, St. Mark’s and St. Alban’s adults, and Donna Osborne. I then had a few days to recuperate and promptly left for North Carolina, and then a vacation in Costa Rica.
I was blessed to spend two weeks during this excitement with Donna Osborne, an active member of St. Mark’s, Huntersville, an executive at Bank of America, and an expert in many things, including finding fun in tiring trips with insufficient air conditioning. We were initiating a strategic planning process for the Diocese of Costa Rica, which entailed visiting all seventeen of our churches scattered around Eastern Costa Rica. Our goal is to help Bishop Monterroso develop a comprehensive strategy through research, conversation, and prayer, for the Diocese to grow spiritually, physically, and through outreach missions. Applied to the companion relationship, the Strategic Plan will help us better focus our resources to according to these demonstrated and discerned priorities. In this research phase, Donna and I traveled to small, weathered churches in a small van with no suspension – on a road with many bumps and potholes. In some locations we found aging congregations in aging buildings, electricity and plumbing often long since gone (having been stolen by drug addicts). In others, we found innovative uses of space, materials, and energy.
For every church, we took stock of what needs and resources are present, and tried to determine in what order they should be addressed. We also interviewed community leaders in every area to understand the needs and problems of the neighborhood. These conversations complemented the perspective shared by the congregations, which, like in the US, were sometimes more focused on structural needs (“we need a new building!”) than those that are abstract and socially-based. In almost every community, we were most struck by the astounding number of young mothers we saw. Having attended large and economically depressed public schools up until Wesleyan, I thought I had been exposed to teen pregnancy; I found here, though, that the problem can be so much larger and more complicated than it seemed in Alexandria. In most communities, our inquires about teen pregnancy were met with discomfort and resignation, “we don’t talk about this problem.” The depth to which the Catholic Church is so deeply entrenched in Costa Rica swallows up any inclination to discuss sexuality or contraception. Girls have babies who then have babies. Donna and I felt strongly that we need to include introducing dialogue about sexual health in the social projects that we recommend.
The churches we visited, although small or in disrepair, often were ripe with desire to grow and expand; they just lacked the resources and capacities to do so. We compiled our research into a document that demonstrated our findings and suggested a prioritized list of actions, ranging from buying more bilingual Books of Common Prayer to developing a regional youth program (including sexual health programs) to tearing down the decrepit second story of a building. The project was incredibly interesting and exciting for me, and I’m looking forward to continuing the work. I had a blast with Donna, too. The innovation and creativity that we applied to our work extended to all aspects of our transient life: facing the prospect of our (very rural) hotel’s breakfast ending at 6 am one morning, we bought little boxes of cereal and milk and ate breakfast out of the water glasses with plastic spoons. We also developed a shared love for a glass of Frontera wine after a long, bumpy day; Cocanas cookies at any time of day; and true reverence for good suspension. I think that Donna would agree that we were most moved by the moments when everything came together – when we could see how one project at one church could then lead into another more comprehensive project, and how that bigger project would help bring more people into a relationship with God. In these moments, the divine inspiration that we both feel led us to the process of the Strategic Plan was palpable.
Donna’s visit was followed by two exciting workshops on Radical Welcome and Youth Ministry led by Rebecca Yarbrough and Matt Addington, respectively. The Radical Welcome workshops were held in San Jose and Limón. In each location, participants watched a video featuring Bishop Monterroso and Bishop Curry discussing the concept and role of Radical Welcome in their respective Dioceses. The workshop then turned into a conversation about what Radical Welcome meant to individuals, and how they imagine their congregations becoming more welcoming and dynamic. In many cases, strangers sat down together, and when they stood up to leave, they had become bound to one another through a discussion of sharing God’s love. Hearing one’s own fears or questions asked by someone else from a totally different background was a very spiritual experience.
The Youth Ministry workshop took place in San Jose and was a trial for a program we want to implement in the companion relationship. As I wrote, the need of a youth program in Costa Rica is paramount, and at the present, there are no trained youth ministers. Matt Addington, a patient, energetic, and talented youth minister from St. Mark’s and St. Alban’s, is committed to sharing his experience in order to help develop the capacities of youth leaders in Costa Rica. The workshop was a discussion of the nuts and bolts of youth ministry. Afterward, we agreed that we should continue this effort and find a way to turn dialogue into action. I’m very much looking forward to seeing how I can make this happen.
After St. Mark’s and St. Alban’s left, I jetted to Charlotte for a week of meetings, conversation, and visits to CVS and Harris Teeter. Throughout the course of the week, after talking to Diocesan staff, people involved in Hispanic ministry, and veteran Costa Rica folk, I began to develop some clear ideas of what my job should and can be. A large part of my work will entail figuring out how we can make our relationship with Costa Rica more comprehensive and intentional. It should be interesting, exciting, and challenging. I also got to spend time with the friends I’ve made through the relationship, which was relaxing and enjoyable. I bought out Harris Teeter’s supply of Indian TastyBite dishes, Arm and Hammer toothpaste, and Bumble and Bumble conditioner. In the often overwhelming process of trying to create a life in a country where I can count my friends on my fingers, the little things, such as these, really count.
I’m trying, though, to build enough of a life here that I don’t rely on Chana Masala to make my day (although I’ve got a stash just in case!). I’m throwing myself in a process of evaluating the process and role of mission trips in the companion relationship, and am so excited for the project. I will begin conversations with folks involved in the Companion Relationship in North Carolina next week. I’m also working with Geoff Peters of Christ Church on microfinance, Greg Frye of Holy Comforter and Chris Skarzynski of St. Timothy’s on upcoming mission trips, and Padre Eduardo Chinchilla on developing a micro-enterprise with the women of Esperanza de Viva, an organization for women with AIDS, just to name a few! Aside from working, I am concentrating on finding an apartment. Although the hospitality of Diocesan House is unmatched, I need to have more personal space, removal from the office, and a neighborhood in which I thrive. I’ve found a cute place in Heredia, near an excellent yoga studio, two universities, Cristo Recusitado and the Hogar Escuela construction site, and tons of fun but tranquil bars and restaurants. Please pray for me as I pray about this decision.
I look forward to updating this blog more regularly about the events and activities taking place in Costa Rica. I am committed to participating in Episcopal life here as a representative of North Carolina, and will share the experience through the blog. I think it’s important to be intentional about this and I am open to suggestions on how to best convey the love of North Carolina in Costa Rica. I am grateful for all the enthusiastic work, support, and love that emanates from the Diocese of North Carolina.